Why Understanding Relationship Defenses Matters In my work as a therapist, I don’t see “difficult people.” I see protective behaviors that make people appear difficult. What most couples identify as “the problem” in their partner or in their relationship is rarely the real problem. The...
If you’ve ever felt like your brain works differently, like you notice more, feel more, think more deeply, or get stuck more easily, you’re not alone. Adult autism and ADHD (often described under the umbrella of neurodiversity) are not deficits in intelligence or character. They...
Many people come into therapy saying they want to “learn to trust again.” What they usually mean is: “I don’t want to ignore red flags in relationships.” “I don’t want to get hurt.” “ I want to learn to trust my judgment again.” “I don’t...
The holidays have a way of arriving whether or not your heart is ready for them. Lights go up, invitations roll in, stores start playing music you didn't ask for-and meanwhile, your life might feel like it's standing painfully still, while the rest of the...