Many people come into therapy saying they want to “learn to trust again.” What they usually mean is: “I don’t want to ignore red flags in relationships.” “I don’t want to get hurt.” “ I want to learn to trust my judgment again.” “I don’t...
The holidays have a way of arriving whether or not your heart is ready for them. Lights go up, invitations roll in, stores start playing music you didn't ask for-and meanwhile, your life might feel like it's standing painfully still, while the rest of the...
If intimacy is a kind of ongoing conversation — a back-and-forth of presence, touch, emotion, and meaning — then safety is the language that conversation is spoken in. Without a felt sense of safety, connection doesn’t deepen; it defends. Even the most loving partnerships or...
Why am I posting a blog about helping children with anxiety when I do not counsel children, you ask?Because we all have our own experience of having been children ourselves. Sometimes, when we are overwhelmed as kids or adolescents, the fear we experienced lingers in...